I haven’t written in a while and it isn’t because I don’t have anything to say, I guess it is just because I don’t know how to gather my thoughts, how to make sense of all that is tumbling around in my head, how to release all the relentless emotions that fills me and make it seem as if I am on a rollercoaster ride with more lows than highs. It is funny how whenever I struggle with some sort of thing, it blocks my ability, my creativeness and I just have to start writing to make sense of it all or to figure out why and how. It is as if my writing is the solution to my problems and yet it is the most difficult thing do, when thoughts, ideas, emotions swims around like different colour washing in a tumble dryer. I even considered to stop writing all and all, and I get all teary when I say this, the thought crossed my mind to just stop writing. And this isn’t because I don’t have a story to tell, because I have plenty, this isn’t because I’m not enjoying it, because I am, it is just that sometimes it just flows out of me and other times (like now) it is all that makes sense and feels right to me, no matter the struggle it takes just to get started..
I am honestly freaking out, because for once in my life I found something that makes me truly happy, even just the thought of creating something in my mind before I actually lay it down on paper, excites me like a 16 year old heading out on her first date. As much as I am freaking out about something that excites me, I am freaking out because is this the right thing, this wasn’t at all in the plan and my 16 year old self would agree here. I guess I just visualised my life different and as much as I trust and believe and know that this is the way that it is supposed to be, I just figured it would be different. While I’m being honest, I figured that I would have this amazing career now, well on my way to being successful in the field that I decided to study toward (take into account that I did change my course of study, but not important now). Yes, I always saw myself as being this charismatic, confident, in control almost 26 year old, who has her life together and ticking all the boxes as she goes along. After the wonderful career was supposed to begin, I was supposed to get engaged to Prince Charming who ultimately turned out to be a frog and get married, the whole fairy tale experience, I mean why the F did I read all that ish for. So after getting married we would be living in our amazing home and start our family, which in my 16year old brain would be right about now.
So my timeline isn’t even close to that, not even remotely. And this is what makes me freak out, because am I even on the right path, am I going the right way, should I take another route or am I just freaking out. I ultimately am happy with the person I am now, yeah, even though career wise I am nowhere, (don’t know if my 16year old self would be disappointed, angry, mad, sad, happy or proud of me).I am not going to lie, sometimes it bothers me that I am not where I wanted to be but it makes me feel content that I know that the way I feel when I do what I love is ultimately the feeling that I chase and what I am after. Relationships, engagement, marriage, as I watch countless episodes of Brides searching for their perfect dresses, I am happy just doing that, watching. As I get ideas for my special day, someday, I realise that I am still growing into the woman I would want my future husband to meet, that I am still learning so much about myself, things that I fall in love with every day and when the time is right I know the right person will as well. I still feel like a child and that’s being honest, as much as age defines being mature or an adult, I actually still feel like a child, I guess I am still a 16year old at heart, now directing her life, or being on the path that she wants to be on.
I am turning 26 in exactly one week, am I freaked out? HELL YES, Am I scared? HELL YES!! And no this isn’t a quarter life crisis, I already went through that, thus the start of my blog, quarter life crisis gave birth to beautiful things. I guess this is just the next step, the step where I realise that everything is as it is supposed to be, the step where I realise that this is only the beginning even though it doesn’t feel like that all of the time. I realise that my 16 year old self would be proud of me, I broke the mould and I’m shattering it into pieces as I go along. I am not what I thought I would be, not in the least, but this is actually more exciting. Doing what makes me happy, chasing dreams and goals based on what brings me joy and happiness, no matter how outside of the box/the normal it is. I believe this is the beginning to greatness, this is the start to a career that I wouldn’t have been able to anticipate the magnitude, to a love story that’ll exceed the number 1 movies. I am just moving at my pace, taking my path and being happy while doing it. I don’t fit the mould and I’m glad that I don’t.