genuinely candidly Myself

There is absolutely nothing wrong with unapologetically, candidly being yourself. The past few weeks I have been addressing the issue of just being myself, to not only be comfortable in my skin (which I am), but being comfortable enough to be myself, when it comes to voicing my opinion, being this weird, wacky, free spirited person that I am. I am also very reserved, it all depends on my mood, how I feel at a specific time, but I decided to just be myself and surprising events has arose from it.

To be yourself means that not everyone will like you, their views and opinions may be different to yours and do you really want to change things about yourself to please others and then not being true to yourself. So if I have to be myself there will be tons of people who do not like me, do I care? No. I after all have to like myself, I have to live with myself when no one else is around, so why can’t I be the same person in public and in private, why do I have to put on different faces, to please different people. Okay, so some people won’t be able to handle my personality, I have heard countless time that I am trying to hard or trying to be impressive, but I am not. I am fortunate and blessed to have a good general knowledge, I have been actively reading anything from a library book to different types of magazines and newspapers on a daily basis since the time I was old enough to read. I am interested in different things, thus why I read; to accumulate knowledge and to be well informed, isn’t that the reason behind learning? So if I talk about sports, it is because I actually play and watch different sports, because it is interesting; if I talk about current events, politics, I do so, because I am a curious one, and I have my own thoughts and opinions and not just because I want to show off, but being well informed helps make better choices from a knowledgeable perspective.

When you are open to being truly yourself, you attract amazing things to yourself, whether it be opportunities, contacts, wonderful friendships, relationships, things that make you feel good about who and what you are. When you are comfortably yourself, it is almost as if you ooze confidence, have you ever been told by someone that you are something else? That you are like a breath of fresh air? And you just respond with “this is who I am, this is me, and this is how I always am”. There comes a certain level of ease when you are just being yourself, the energy and vibes you send out, are a direct reflection of what you feel inside, the fact that you are content in your own skin, that you are filled with happiness with who you are; that you don’t allow negative thoughts and experiences to impact you in a way that won’t allow personal and positive growth, in who you are and what you want to achieve and be.

I met a view new people over the weekend, I did some work for them, and if I wasn’t who I am, I wouldn’t have made new contacts, I wouldn’t have built new relationships and I’m just glad I am who I am. They say energy attracts, so if you are oozing confidence and just radiate this glowing personality, you attract what you need and want. If you are comfortable with who you are, others becomes comfortable with who you are (no matter the size of the personality), if you are positive you attract positivity, if you have this burning desire and passion for what you do, people are able to feel this and you will be surprised just how much your passion ignites a spark not just within yourself, but even those you surround yourself with, even if you just met. Being yourself is the best thing that you can do, I mean if you aren’t going to be yourself, who will be?

So I am unapologetically candidly myself, if it means that I babble non-stop without making sense, if I voice my opinions and come across as being just a little bit conceited, if I am this wild-care-free spirit, this is who I am. I am passionately myself, passionate about who I am, passionate about who I am meant to be, passionate about the love I have for writing and linking different ideas and concepts and bringing them to life. This is me, my personality, and the select view that appreciates and feeds of this energy, those are the people who makes me just love being Me.

bad life choices- really?

Being labelled as someone known for not always making the most intelligent choices when it comes to life in general or whether it be, school, career and especially love. Bad life choices being not making smart choices, allowing impulsive thoughts to be the guide and well ending up either unhappy or giving to much of the self for others.

I like to think that there is no such thing as a bad life choice. Yes, the decision you make, might lead you off track and not where you need and want to be, but how you deal with the consequences of that decision, determines whether it was indeed a bad life choice. Something I’ve learnt is to never have regrets, the decision you made was because you wanted that specific thing at the specific time. So how can it be a bad life choice? Well it can be bad, because the specific field of studies wasn’t what you envisioned, the career you thought you wanted ended up being the thing you despise most and that love interest, well looking at how things ended, it was Bad. I still ask, do you have regrets? And by regrets I do not mean all the negativity that came with it, the unhappy, sad times, because with any choice that’s well, things that can happen. A bad life choice could possibly turn into the best life choice.
It’s about learning, learning who and what you are, how that unhappy feeling could turn into unexpected happiness, how that field of studying can give you a background or edge when you are finally in the field that you want to be. The bad life choice in a career could be the stepping stone to amazing things you couldn’t ever have imagined. It’s all about perception, how you choose to view the choices made and what you take as a lesson from it all.

Bad life choices, it kind of feels like a bad case of Deja vu, as if history is repeating itself, but also life giving you a second chance to get back on the path where you are supposed to be, where you need to be, where you should be. Sometimes we get so used to the negativity that accompanies a choice that when that same choice brings so much positivity, it feels wrong, almost as if it cannot be, that it isn’t supposed to happen and that’s when we make actual bad life choices. Giving up on something new, something unknown, something that scares us, because we view that as a bad life choice and we base that on past negative experienced brought on by a choice made. So when that feeling of Déjà vu hits, as if you have literally experienced the same thing, the actors in the roles just differ, scenario’s may differ, but in your heart you know, that bad life choice prepared you for the good life choice that you are bound to make. Making a good life choice happens when all experiences of the so called bad life choices have been viewed in a positive way, where the lessons learnt are being applied to new decisions and ventures.

Bad life choices- there’s no such thing.
The bad makes way for the good, almost like the storm before the rainbow. The bad choices you kick yourself for, what have you learnt and when the opportunity arises what would you do? Make a good life choice, because the bad choice prepared you, equipped you to recognise the good when it happens. Being thrown of path isn’t all that bad, just see the positive and the lessons and just be sure that the negativity of the past don’t jeopardise the present.

Bad life choices, there is no such thing, it makes you who you are, leads you to the good ones ;).