they don’t…

Spring has sprung and as the new leaves start adorning trees, blossoms flowering so beautifully, rain bringing refreshment, as it is time for new beginnings and all so beautiful things. Just like spring brings refreshment, renewed energy and life it also brings with it Love and plenty of it. It brings love in all its forms, in all kinds of relationships, it sets the tone for already established and also new interactions and connections. Thing is when the blossoms blooms and bright green leaves appear and grow, so does the emotion fearlessly taking over and grows as beautiful as the season.

As the season changes, so do relationships and everywhere one looks, happy couples just seem to bud and flourish everywhere, like the wild flowers along the road. It is as if Love gets included in all the raindrops and as soon as it hits you, getting wet and basking in this feeling is all that is left. Thing is with new love, everyone else also always seem to have their own opinion in some or other way. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but as soon as these opinions start to dictate your life or decision, well then that opinion made an impact so deep that it becomes a truth. If you know what you know no one else’s opinion can even remotely sway you from any action that you have taken, any choice you have made, it just doesn’t have any effect. And when we see all the happy couples popping up, so does the unwanted, unneeded opinions of others. Yeah, it basically comes with the territory, whether you want it or not.

One of the most common opinions of people are, why him or her? This question rather seems to make one defensive because how dare someone who doesn’t even know the person ask questions like that, either they know something or it’s just an opinion that they have created. People can say whatever they want, ask why or how, but the fact remains that they have absolute no idea what makes you want to be with who you want to be and why it is why it is.

They don’t understand how it feels when he looks at you as if you are the most beautiful creation that he has the pleasure of having in front of him.

They don’t understand how it feels when he creeps up behind you and unexpectedly hugs you from behind and holds you so tightly as if he never wants to let go.

They don’t understand how it feels when he makes you laugh so hard that you stomach hurts, because he is just so funny.

They don’t understand the tingling feeling you get whenever you just hear his voice.

They don’t understand how crazy it feels to experience what feels like something magical.

They don’t understand how it feels when you wake up in the morning and realising that he has been watching you sleep for a while.

They don’t understand how it feels when you wake up and he tells you how beautiful you are, even with last night’s mascara making you look like a racoon.

They don’t understand how it feels when he looks at you so intensely and stating how happy he is to be yours.

They don’t understand the feeling of happiness that swims over you when you realise that you wouldn’t want to be anywhere else, but with him.

They don’t understand the feeling that rushes through your body, electric, powerful whenever you just seem to touch.

They don’t understand the feeling that a gentle kiss on the forehead engraves within ones heart.

They don’t understand the feeling you get when you just look into his eyes, when all words seem to be lost, when the moment seems all so perfect and you just know what he is thinking, feeling and wanting.

So people will raise questions, why him and why her, they will most probably have a field day, raise their unwanted opinions, but they still wouldn’t understand, because it isn’t something that they feel or experience for themselves. So as spring brings new life, new beginnings, new love, and so happiness becomes a necessity, in all areas. Even if opinions are raised, that is all they are, because they or No one understands what is happening between hearts, except the hearts that feel it.

just an opinion

The thing is people will always have some or other thing to say about you, whether it is good or bad, based on the truth or an elaborate story conceived through assumptions. How do you deal with individuals who always have something to say about you, your style, career choice, love interest, what you do and what you don’t do? There is a saying that goes that if people stop talking about you, that is when you should be worried, meaning that as long as your name flows freely from their lips that you are still relevant and probably someone they somewhat hate and secretly aspire to be like in some or other aspect.

We sometimes, well a lot of the time care way too much about others opinions of who and what we are. Opinions is just that, feelings, views, ideas, thoughts and attitudes that others have of us. So everyone has their own opinion, that doesn’t make it true or significant until you as an individual allow it to have an impact one your life and how you choose to live life on a daily basis. If someone doesn’t like the shoes, dress or coat you are wearing, will you change it? if you do, it means that their opinion matters so much that you are willing to change and compromise who you are to fit their view of you. So whenever you hear smack talk you’ll find varies ways to stop it, by changing things that are critiqued and talked about, by speaking up and explaining yourself. This isn’t how it is supposed to be, whether people question your choice of hairstyles, partner you date, even food that you choose to eat, that should be their opinion and their opinion shouldn’t even disturb you, because if their opinion mattered wouldn’t they be a part of your inner circle?

Too much time and attention is given on how others perceives us, how they think we should act and feel in certain events is mostly based on how they would approach and handle the situation, the same with opinions on styles of clothes you wear, the job you decide to do, the boy or girlfriend you choose to date or break-up with, the way you speak and carry yourself, if you are to confident then you are arrogant, if you are introverted then you are a prude, you just cannot win. If you try to amuse and charm the people or as they are nowadays referred to “haters”, you will always come in second place, as soon as you do everything, changing things about yourself, they’ll just find fault in something else.

You have to be comfortable with being you, being content with the person that you are and that is the first step to not caring what others opinions of you entail. The person you have to answer to is yourself and your maker. If you are happy with who you are, others views and opinions will remain just that, because no matter how much they talk about you, question your choices, the only thing that matters is the truth; the truths about who you are, what you are and that will be clear to those who call themselves your trustees, your inner circle, the people you don’t need to explain yourself to. As the saying goes, those who matter don’t mind and those who mind doesn’t matter and that is so true. The moment you start being true to yourself that is the moment that you don’t need any validation from any outside sources, that’s the moment where people may talk so much nonsense and irrelevant things about you, that you just shake it off (also listen to Taylor Swifts “Shake it off”), because what they think and say about you doesn’t have any influence on who you are, it rather says a lot about their character.

People will always talk behind your back, but it is how you react to it, they will feel sorry for you based on assumptions, they will dislike you just because it is you and they will find fault in any possible thing that they most probably can. If you are comfortable in your own skin, happy with decisions you make, like yourself because you are supposed to know yourself best after all, that is all that matters, your true inner strength and beauty will automatically sparkle through and that confidence and comfort is what makes others uncomfortable and seeking for error in you. Light attracts light, and scares away the dark, so the best revenge is to be comfortably yourself and truly be so amazing that no negative opinion, view or attitude can touch you.

What others believe about you speaks about their character and not who you are, their opinion is just that an opinion.