The Kind Of Funny, weird, quirky, My kinda awesome

 

I don’t think it is funny. I don’t think that it is funny that I instantaneously started smiling as soon as I hear that voice. I wouldn’t say I am irritated, or mad, or playing a bit hard to get, speaking in that stern serious tone of voice, just to bring a point across, in actuality wanting to sounding all cool calm and collected.

In the mean-team as I say “Heloo”, you respond with that captivating happy sound that so effortlessly flow from your lips “Hi, how are you”; just there I could see that smile that captures you at every turn and each time engulfs you like the first, all this just by the sound of his voice.

Something weird always happens when I hear his voice, and it isn’t because I am quirky in my own right, it is just something that I think is super funny and it makes me smile and happy, because it makes me laugh, and guess who causes it…him.

I am bilingual and more than efficiently fluent in both, when I speak to him, it is almost as if the different wires that is connected in my brain, somehow gets crossed, it is like I have so many things that I want to tell him and want to say, that it all just wants to flow from my tongue in a ramble, as all the words formed wants an escape, but then when the words want to take form and escape my mouth, I start stuttering…

My English and Afrikaans gets mixed, I think in Afrikaans and speak in English and then I think in English and speak in Afrikaans, all in the matter of seconds, and my hearts starts beating with this busy ongoing in my mind, my cheeks start flustering, and I just smile.

Because in that moment you know exactly all that I want to say, you understand every sentence like it gets described and explained to the T, but I think the best part is that, you actually listen. The way you listen so intently to not just hear but to actually pay attending, to actually take note, even though the words fumbling from my lips are tangled up dilly utterances, you get it, you just get it.

 

I just don’t get how the sound of your voice, at the same time brings this serenity over me, this calm happy feeling, this glow that sprouts from within, a glow that is formed in the soul and gets pulled out only by vibes that echoes with the vibes that resonate with my soul.

And this is still just only by the sound of your voice, it is as if your voice touches every part of my senses, I not only hear you, but I listen to you, I listen to the words from your mouth, I see the smile on your voice, I feel the happiness in your voice, causing a smirk, causing cheeks to turn mauve, eyes to glisten, as if the energy gets transferred from you to me, as if instantaneously our vibe is the same.

I do think it is kind of cool that every phone call I have with you is kind of awesome, besides the fact that I feel it is weird and funny and quirky.

I think it is kind of cool, because every time it feels like one of the best conversations, no matter how short or long, it feels soothing and so gentle, it is like a calm to just quiet the ruffled. So even if it is weird and funny and quirky, it is my kind of cool, my kind of vibe, and my kind of awesome.

flirting? i was just friendly

So apparently there is a very fine line between being friendly and well flirting. As recent studies and surveys has shown, well actually just general observations, as no official paperwork has been filed and graphs been drawn up to state or back up all the findings. So general observations has shown that there is indeed a fine line between being friendly and flirty, it also depends on what ones definition of either is and where you draw the line (personally) on what friendly means, as well as flirty.

More often than not being Friendly gets mistaken for flirting and establishing the fine line between the two becomes more like a massive grey area, all because of the hook up culture that surrounds us. The grey area referring to the place where similarities between flirting and friendly crosses and also where on could be mistaken for the other, the increase of this grey area is simple; we expect other people to read our minds because we don’t say what we want or feel and want to try mind control like we have the power of inception and assume that others sense and know what and how we feel. This isn’t always the case, some people (including me) can be extremely “blonde/dilly” and things need to be spelled out from A to Z, almost like creating a map from the question to get to the answer; for instance if you are flirting with me, tell me straight out, it would minimize confusion and maybe not be mistaken for just being overly friendly.
So being friendly, being cheerful, smiley, holding a good conversation, truly engaging with the other person and maybe just being your confident self, sometimes gets misinterpreted as Flirting, and the only time you realize this, is when a text pops up on your phone asking, “so when can we hang out”. There is also a difference when it comes to being asked about the hanging out question, one variable could be that the person genuinely just wants to be friends (friend zone, yes please) or where this is the first step in telling you that they actually want to stick their tongue down your throat. It’s easy to differentiate, because you simply ask what the other persons intentions are and make clear what yours are, if you aren’t on the same page, well congratulations, your friendliness might have been misinterpreted as flirting, or your flirting as friendliness, and oops someone has just been friend zoned or just took a chance and wanted to clear up their assumptions.

Sometimes being friendly is literally the only thing that you are trying to do, being so confidently joyous, an absolute thrill to be around, instigating conversations that fascinates and showing a genuine interest, listening and not just hearing and engaging by giving your time. It becomes obvious how this can be seen as flirting, as these are some of the features associated with chatting someone up, without the endless winks, licking of the lips, body language oozing what the brain, eyes and mouth so desperately wants to say, but makes use of the subtle subliminal signs as if one is a mind reader or some sort of super hero with psychic abilities.
So flirting so hard that your eyelids start to hurt from all the blinking and batting you did, getting offered lip balm because the only person who can get away with licking their lips so much is probably just LL Cool J and that isn’t a cute look on anyone, no matter how hard you try to flirt, using out dated pick-up lines that wouldn’t even work on a 2 year old and would rather be taken as an amusing joke. Trying to touch the other person’s shoulder or hand and laughing at their jokes like they are the world’s newest edition on the comedic circuit, when they don’t even have the slightest sense of humor, trying so hard to smile to captivate the other person, that your smile almost seems blinding. So it’s easy to see how even these action can be seen as comedic friendliness and lands you in the friend zone, instead of the hook-up zone.

So there really is a grey zone when it comes to what friendliness and flirting is supposed to be, whether you can flirt yourself out of a brown paper bag or seem like Ms. Sunshiny Friendly herself, the grey zone broadens the fine line that is supposed to be there. So if you are friendly, do so in all its aspects and don’t tone it down because it might be mistaken for something else and if it does, just straight out state the facts. And if you are flirting, do so with confidence, humorless jokes and all, if it gets mistaken for friendliness the friend zone isn’t such a bad place and besides anyone can get out of the friend zone 😉 … but all in all if you flirt, say what you want, be clear, after all isn’t assumption the mother of all Fuck ups.